Wednesday, January 25, 2006

The Calculus of Revenge

 
Mark Steyn’s recent column, “Standing Small Against Iran Won’t Work” brought to mind the years I spent immersed in the crises of domestic violence. Whoever first termed it “domestic terrorism” was right. Though this was decades before Islamicists were on the horizon, the similarities would turn out to be striking.

In his essay, Steyn pokes fun at the limp-wristed resolve of the EU 3 and their vicious counter-attacks on Iran. Britain is harrumphing about “narrowly targeted sanctions.” That’ll put a scare into them. Germany thinks this is too harsh, and La Belle is doing some nuklear saber-rattling — but who believes Chirac on anything, even the color of his tie?

So what do these “world leaders” + Iran have to do with domestic violence? Well, let me give you a real-life example; see if you get the parallels.

Back in the mid-’80s, while domestic violence was pretty much a grass-roots organization, I admitted to our shelter a woman who’d had both eyes blackened by her abuser. As the shock wore off, she was distraught, angry and determined to end the relationship. We took pictures of the damage for court, and went to the magistrate’s office. He looked her over and filed charges for assault. Her abuser was picked up the next day, spent the night in jail, and at his preliminary hearing was given a court date and instructions on finding a lawyer. He was released on his own recognizance as he had no previous record, was steadily employed, and wasn’t going anywhere. In the judge’s opinion, he was a “good” risk, though she ordered the man to stay away from his victim. He proceeded to do so, never once bothering her in the lead up to the trial.

Meanwhile, she made common sense decisions regarding living arrangements. Someone else got her things from their apartment, she opened her own checking account, and set about trying to establish life on her own.

She was nervous, though. “You don’t know him,” she’d tell me over and over again. Problem was, I did indeed know his pattern and thought her misgivings intuitively right. The most dangerous time for a woman is after she leaves. This woman was living in a danger zone and she didn’t need me to tell her.

Court day came. The Commonwealth’s Attorney had his ducks in a row: pictures of my client’s damaged face (now healing), testimony from the victim and her family — the whole and usual thing in these cases.

The judge listened carefully to both sides before finding the man guilty and sentencing him to six months, suspended, on the condition that he stay away from his wife. He had a good job, he seemed reasonable and contrite — six months probation and an “anger management class” of course. He was to stay away from his victim.

After it was all over, the abuser stopped the Commonwealth’s Attorney as he was leaving court. The man’s interest was in the particulars of his sentence: only six month’s probation for damaging his wife’s eyes like that? The Commonwealth’s Attorney, who hated these guys, answered tersely, “yeah. It’s not nearly enough. Stay the hell away from her.” The man rocked back on his heels once or twice and seemed to ponder this. “Six months probation, huh?” The CA pushed past him.

You can guess the rest of the story. Within the week, my client was hospitalized, having been severely beaten. Her abuser was out on bail this time, which was set at $25,000.00. His family helped him raise the percentage for the bondsman. When I saw him, he told me it was the six months’ probation that made his assault irresistible. “Only six months,” he said. “It was worth it.”

The later circumstances are less clear now. I believe he was sentenced to a year in the county jail. What stayed with me, though, was this man’s cool assessment of risk versus payoff. To his way of thinking, he made a rational decision and was willing to pay the consequences for inflicting that amount of pain.

Same thing with Iran. A terrorist is a terrorist is a terrorist. Whether in the privacy of his home or as the head of state, there is always the calculus of pay-off. And sometimes, to their twisted way of thinking, it’s simply worth the price they have to pay.

Pray for Israel and the people of Iran.

6 comments:

Pastorius said...

Good post Dymphna. Especially, the last sentence, because I can't think of anything else to do but pray at this point.

Eleanor © said...

Come to think of it, the Muslim world must have discovered the same concept centuries ago - they risk a few hundred thousand lives for the Premio grande, the big pay off - living off the fat of the land of a captured civilization and all those souls for Allah!

geoffgo said...

Dymphna,

WRT to abusers, when I was young and lived in the boonies of Vermont, we used to "fix" the situation by giving the bully a very sound thrashing, along with the promise that the retribution would be much worse if ever he abused again. The behind-the- woodshed treatment seemed to work; at least better than today's remedies.

Nowadays, we don't punish the abusers, except to jail them. And, as I understand it, many even more serious abuses occur when the abuser is released after their first offense.

Kind of like catch and release is working in Iraq.

Uncle Pavian said...

geoffgo makes a legitimate point about dealing with domestic abusers, but I wonder whether things haven't changed in the Green Mountain State more than he realizes.
Isn't Vermont the state where the chattering classes are falling over themselves to defend sentences of 60 days for child molesters?
The thing that would have best protected the unfortunate lady in Dymphna's post would have been a large calibre handgun, together with the skill and will to use it.

Pim's Ghost said...

The real problem comes when you read Steyn's article, "It's the Demography, Stupid". They are trying to provoke a big fight at the present, but as Steyn points out they are also waiting like vultures for us to commit civilizational suicide so that they can take up the reins once we forfeit.

And just talk to any muslim online or in their blogs and posts. They throw this issue of demography up constantly as a threat and as an assurance. They claim that it's only a matter of time and they know it, so they don't even take us seriously.

All told, this is why I'm pushing activism so hard. But that's just staying in the spirit of Pim Fortuyn I suppose!!

Dymphna said...

Pim's Ghost--

As usual, the Muslims have it only half-right, maybe not even that much.

Consider China, which Goesh does in my post "Dangerous Opportunity." In another generation --actually less -- the Chinese will be doing everything but walking on water. And they don't give two hoots about no Muslims, thank you very much.

All the Muslims have is numbers and that's not enough if you have no education, no infrastructure, and a corrupt, rotted-out form of kleptocracy for a government....all the Muslims have going for them is prayer. And China is going to boot them a good one if they assume that position in China.

The US is going to look like the good old days when China gets finished.

Of course, we have India -- finally -- as an ally. But that couldn't happen until the USSR imploded.

And market restraints? The Chinese will be RTOFL all the way to the bank.

As has been its wont, Islam is a century short and a lotta dinar short. Way short.